THOSE NICE GUYS...

People often say ‘it’s difficult to find nice guys these days’, really?? I mean I don’t think that is true. There are people who may not agree with me over this but still that won’t stop me from trying…this post is dedicated to all those nice guys who have faced problems due to their nature or have been termed emotional fools by this world…those nice guys!!

                                

                                  The burning candles were dying down slowly which signified that they had served their purpose for that hour. I was constantly staring at those candles which were still trying to illuminate their surrounding even though their flames were getting weaker with each passing second, finally after a few minutes there was darkness in that room. I went outside there was quietness all around with a tinge of darkness as clouds tried to cover the moonlight, my life had just been like those candles or that of a moon. I closed my eyes and suddenly everything started flashing right in front of my eyes, all those times when people used  me for their selfish needs, all those times when my friends and relatives termed me a fool because I believed people easily and would help even those who once left me when i needed them the most. All those times when i suffered due to my deeds. I was walking on a desolated street with a cool breeze blowing across, the moon and that thin cloud cover to accompany me. I kept on walking without knowing my destination without knowing where will that street lead me to, i kept on walking, with a hope of finding a way to weather the storm of emotions running wild inside my head…

Am I too nice with this world or is this world way too rude and it expects everyone to follow that path? I never got the answer to this question of mine. This world can be a strange place at times and so do those people and their ideologies. I was never good at expressing myself in front of persons neither was i good at shouting nor at showing my anger in front of persons, maybe due to this, people think that persons like me can’t shout or show dissent, well all i always wanted to tell those people was that we don’t shout or yell at them only because we value relationships more than our hollow ego and fake pride. Nice guys do have the capability of being rude and trying to boss around, people are nice because they chose to be nice with everyone they chose to be this way because this gives them satisfaction and contentment, which is all that matters.

Even a candle knows its fate when it starts burning, the moment it produces a flame it knows that it will melt into wax after sometime but even this thing doesn’t stop it from driving away that darkness. That candle dies after a few hours but at least it dies with a sense of contentment and satisfaction of driving away that darkness. The same is the case with the nice guys, we are not that bigger fools who don’t know when are they being used by someone for their selfish deeds, people don’t know that it takes a great amount of courage to forgive people and to help them by forgetting how badly they treated you once, not everyone has that amount of courage to do these things maybe that is the reason they start laughing at those nice guys just to make themselves feel better. I don’t know how to react or what to say to this world which always tries to rectify others even after knowing that they are not perfect themselves!!

There will always be a tug of war between this world and those nice guys and frankly speaking I don’t care about the result, i don’t care who wins or loses, in the end all that matters to me is that feeling of satisfaction, that feeling of contentment which one gets by helping someone or by trying to solve someone else’s problem, because in the end when we will be on our deathbeds and our life will be flashing in front of our eyes then at that particular moment all we’ll remember is those persons who helped us when no one was ready to help us. It will always be those nice guys whom people will remember when they will be bidding a final adieu to this world, but unfortunately this world may not understand this basic philosophy and maybe that is the reason behind this world questioning those nice guys. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to understand this world, i mean if someone whom you helped betrayed you at some point of time that doesn’t mean you stop helping and believing on persons. I believe on persons and try to help them, not because i expect a favor in return i just expect them to smile whenever they will think of me. I just expect them to remember me on their death-beds.

‘That person was really nice, I wish more persons would have been like him’, maybe these could be the last few words of that person before closing those eyes for one final time. This world needs more of those nice guys not because they are less in number but because this world deserves to be much more beautiful than it is today. I know there will always be questions there will always be persons who will teach about how to be rude to those persons who were once rude to you but helping someone and forgiving someone is something which won’t be taught in today’s world. We always have two choices to any situation, we shape our lives and world with the choices we make. We may choose not to help and be nice with someone or help someone and be nice with them. The former could lead to that person hating you but the latter will definitely and surely make that person fall in love with you. It has always been the road less traveled for the nice guys and that road has always been a desolated street with darkness all around, that’s how the world looks at when it thinks of being nice but what this world doesn’t know is…there will always be a moon which will be shining and lighting up that desolated street for you and if you won’t stop and keep on walking then surely one day you will reach somewhere, some place which will be really beautiful and maybe then this world will realize that nice guys are not some fools or someone whom we can always laugh and mock upon!!

There was still quietness on that desolated street on which i was walking, lost in my own thoughts but now that storm of emotions running inside my head had come to a standstill. I looked at the sky there was no cloud cover to overshadow the moon and now the moon shone brightly, everything was visible now under that moonlight. I don’t know for how long I had been walking under that moonlight and on that desolated street but now I was standing at a seashore with sea waves touching my feet and going away, it looked so beautiful and soothing. It was just me, that moon and those waves, i was standing there mesmerized and i don’t know how but that long walk and that desolated street had solved my problems and now i was standing in front of something extremely beautiful. A smile came across my face and i started walking back towards my home, there was still darkness inside that room. I lit a candle to drive away that darkness and placed that burning candle on the table, i thanked that candle and that moment for inspiring me and telling me the underlying philosophy of life. I guess this candle also belonged in the category of the nice guys. Those nice guys…was all this random teenager could mutter with a smile on his face as i tried to sleep under the light of that burning candle!!  

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                                                                              ADARSH SINHA